Telling my story for World Mental Health Day

Trigger warning: suicide, mental health, depression. There’s also quite a few swears.

The last time I tried to die, nothing happened to push me over the ledge. Nothing, in particular, was wrong. Nothing more than usual. I was depressed, and I was suffocating, sad, and my mind was full of nothing. 

But nothing had happened. 

I was just as sad as I had been the day before and the day after. It wasn’t a big deal, you know, and there wasn’t this significant catalyst or trigger that caused me to choose that day.

I was just done. I’d been sad for as long as I could bear, and I just wanted to lie down and take a break. 

I’d been sad for a while, years at this point, and I was tired of it. This day is so insignificant that I don’t even remember the date, just that I was almost 22. 

I could tell you about the years that took me to this point—the mounting pressure in my mind. The pretending to be okay. I mean, people knew I was sad and depressed, but I’m not sure if many knew I was that sad. Everything felt so pointless, and I was exhausted by it all. 

Honestly, this whole time of my life is a chapter that I don’t really dust off and read too much. I have accepted who I was, and now she’s wrapped up somewhere inside me. I try to be gentle with her because she’s still healing. 

I was drowning and decided I didn’t want to drown anymore. I just wanted to have drowned. Basically, I was over it. I was out. This wasn’t my first attempt, but it was gonna be the last, and I was okie with that. 

So, I did it. Sweet dreams, loni. 

Except I woke up to very kind paramedics about to break my front door to rescue me. 

Not everyone was so kind. The nurse in A&E treating me called me stupid and told me that there were cancer patients that would kill to be where I was. So yeah, that obviously helped a lot. 

I had some fluids and hung out in A&E while waiting endlessly for a psych consult.

The psychology consultant was freshly qualified and had the greenest eyes I’ve ever seen. His face is a blur now, but his eyes were intense. I guess he said I was fine because I went home. 

Bundled into a cab with my best friend back to our flat in Surrey Quays, where I’d been really sad and tried to die. And now here I was again, alive. 

I was diagnosed with emotionally unstable personality disorder, aka borderline personality disorder, around this time. Many things now made sense, the instability in my mood, the spiralling, the struggle with rejection or abandonment. I’ve grappled with this diagnosis over the years, holding it in my hands and looking over it from all the different perspectives. For all the negativity associated with BPD, it still fits like an ugly, well-worn coat. I wish it didn’t, but it does, and it’s mine. 

Sometimes, it gets worse before it gets better

Alas, dear reader, it doesn’t get better yet. I wandered into an intense relationship with a boy who wanted to save me. Swinging between love bombing and telling me that I was terrible, it never occurred to me that I didn’t have to live this way. 

It never occurred to me that I didn’t have to wake up and tiptoe around my existence, and I didn’t have to dance around all the broken pieces strewn across the floor. I didn’t have to worry about whether I made eye contact with another human or acknowledged another person and what would wait for me at home.

I wish I could tell you that I realised all this for myself. But I didn’t. Two years into our relationship, I’d finally managed to pull myself together enough that I finished my last year of university and got my first proper job. Two months into my new job, I came home from work one day, and he was gone. He’d moved out of our flat without telling me.

I was stressed and confused but sitting on the floor of a flat that looked like it had been ransacked and robbed, I could breathe. I was 24 and realised I’d been holding my breath for years. 

I moved in with my sister, and I learnt to breathe, in and out, in and out.

I was sad, but in and out. In and out.

I felt things were a bit shaky, I tried to get help, but unfortunately, I didn’t want to die this very minute, so it probably wasn’t that bad, and I should return when it was. I’d waited almost twelve weeks to be told that I couldn’t be helped. Luckily, I never felt suicidal enough again to go back for their help. Probably for the best, as I’d have died before I reached the top of the list. 

This was all in 2013/2014, and I can only hope that things have improved in the past eight years and that there is more support for mental health. But I doubt it. 

Over the years, I’ve had various support, from worry management courses to lithium, DBT to anti-depressants, but the thing that has stuck, the thing that has helped me is to get to know myself. It’s doing the work, talking therapy, questioning why you feel a certain way, developing healthy coping mechanisms—confronting the pieces of me that were a bit jagged and getting to know them. Holding them out in front of me to inspect the cracks. 

I know myself really well. The good, the bad, and the ugly. Like a dentist with their little pen torch and poke-y thing, I’ve spent years examining myself, my reactions, triggers, what hurts, what causes my mood to spiral, how quick it can happen, and what brings me back. I’ve poked the bits that hurt and those that don’t, just to see what would happen. 

I know that eating well and moving my body makes me feel good, and I know getting to be myself helps. I know that I need reassurance and positive reaffirmation, and I know that disappointment of any size is sure to make my mood crash. 

Celebrating birthdays, celebrating healing

On 5 October 2015, the day I turned 25, I wrote myself a letter. I wasn’t happy yet, but I knew I could be. I couldn’t believe how many moments of joy I was having; how fun life could be. Sure, it was pretty shitty at times, work was wild, and I didn’t trust anyone not to hurt me, so I’d been intentionally single for the past few years. I decided to theme my years going forward, setting an intention for the year ahead. 

Most importantly, I didn’t want to die anymore. 

I felt lonely a lot of the time and very often felt incredibly sad, but I wanted to be alive. It wasn’t lonely like I didn’t have people around me; it was lonely like no one understood me. Like no one could see me. Like my presence didn’t make a difference. 

And although this pointlessness had made me feel a bit deathy in the past, I was feeling it, examining it, and it wasn’t consuming me. I wanted to be here; I just felt lonely and sad. 

I was about to start my master’s degree, and I had no idea what the next year years had in store for me. 

By 5 October 2016, I was halfway through my master’s degree, and I had a boyfriend, Scott, I was living with a housemate that I liked, who made me laugh, and I felt at home in myself. I was waitressing, freelancing as a writer, and doing my master’s, it was hard work, but I was juggling. 

Constantly in the back of my mind was that I would let something drop, and it would be like before. I was going to find myself spiralling again. It’s a lot of pressure, waiting for yourself to fuck up and ruin everything you’ve spent years re-building. I was convinced I wasn’t good enough to juggle everything and had evidence that I couldn’t handle everything. Plus, as the love-bomber frequently reminded me, I wasn’t that good of a writer, so it was only a matter of time before other people realised. 

Turning 26, I decided that my theme for the year was going to be “fuck it”. 

I travelled, fell in love, finished my master’s, and jumped to freelancing full-time. I embraced everything I had. I learnt that I could trust myself. I realised that I worked things out. I land on my feet, and I’ve got my back. And maybe others do too, but I knew I could rely on myself to work stuff out. I tried to worry less that I was going to fuck everything up and burn it all to the ground.

The night before I turned 27, I asked myself what I wanted for the year ahead. Could I dare to aim for happiness? No, not yet. So, this year’s theme was to be brave and kind, but without forgetting my fuck it attitude from the previous year. I wanted to have more courage to say yes to more stuff. And equally, say no to more stuff too.

Honestly, this was 50/50 successful. I am a recovering people pleaser. 

Fast forward a few years, it‘s my 30th birthday, and I’m blowing out candles that have been put into a stack of pancakes. Am I happy yet? 

I can’t explain the absolute shit-show of a situation I was living in; Scott and I had moved to Weston-super-Mare to care for Scott’s nan, we were caught in the eye of a hurricane of drama, I constantly felt like I wanted to scream, but was I happy? Absolutely. 

When I turned 30, I looked back over the past five years to when I last thought I was the happiest I could be, and I’m amazed at how my scope for happiness and my capacity for joy has increased by about a million per cent. 

I was chasing happiness like it was this elusive thing. And I learnt that contentment, found in the small moments, the little bricks of life, are what builds happiness. I also learnt that happiness isn’t the absence of sadness. Sadness may never leave me, but I now know that it doesn’t have to consume me and doesn’t have to take me off my feet.  

And often, when I say I’m feeling sad, I’m not feeling sad; I’m caught in the limbo of nothingness. You know the creepy, weird spiral hurricane drawings children do in horror films; that’s how my mind feels when I’m “sad”. 

A few days ago, I turned 32 and celebrated my 32 turns around the sun with five total strangers. I had a last-minute place on a co-working retreat. Sat on the beach, someone asked me what I’d learnt and what I’m taking forward to the new year. I thought for a minute about how to summarise everything that I’ve learnt, and I said: 

You are your most important thing. 

I’m two years on from the candles-in-the-pancakes moment and ten years on from where I was when I last tried to die; I’m a different person, and I’m unrecognisable. 

I know for an absolute fact that I was a nightmare to be around between the ages of 16/17 to 22/23. If you knew me, if you got to see me behind the pretending-to-be-fine mask, I was crushingly sad, and that made me difficult to be around.  

Ten years on

It’s been roughly ten years since I tried to die, and I don’t know how to talk about this. It’s like something that happened to someone else. I know myself so well; I’ve worked so hard on self-awareness that there’s almost a clinical separation between who I am and who I was. 

I know how I feel about it, though. I feel proud, I feel grateful, and I feel so impressed by myself. Sure, I had support, but I clawed my way out of that hurricane to build myself a life that feels like me. It can all end, one way or another, and I don’t want anything but a life that feels like home. 

Now, I feel almost like there’s a karmic balance waiting to be repaid, and I’m terrified of death coming for me before I’m finished. There’s so much I want to do. So much living I have left to do, so much I have left in me. There’s so much I want to achieve, experience, create, and become. 

For a long time, I felt ashamed of my feelings and my history with mental illness, and I was worried that it would lead to judgement and impact the people who wanted to work with me. This feeling hasn’t gone, but I found enough stability and trust that I work with good people that will judge my work and not my experience with mental health. 

I have worked hard to recover, become self-aware, and use myself to help others. I am almost fully trained as a coach, a certified Happiness Facilitator, and a Mental Health First Aider. And it’s important to me that I can support others and that I’m able to be more than empathetic. I can also be helpful and supportive. 

Why am I writing this all down now? Throwing it out into the abyss for someone on the internet to maybe read? 

There are several reasons, but the most important, or the most relevant that I’m willing to say out loud are: 

  1. I’ve just turned 32, it’s been ten years since I last tried to die, and I feel like I’ve lived 100 lives already. 
  2. For a long time, I swallowed down my mental health experiences and diagnosis of BPD because I was ashamed. And I was sure people would judge me and hold it against me (and honestly, I’m probably not wrong)
  3. Recently, I’ve been struggling. Not the way I did ten years ago, but there’s been big changes and stress, and I’ve felt overwhelmed. But I’ve got a support system, I’ve built some positive and healthy coping mechanisms, I limit the amount of pretending that I’m fine, and I just go and lay down on the floor when I need to.  
  4. I don’t know if we hear enough about the people that have made it out of the darkness. And I want to provide a beam of hope for those still feeling alone in their sadness or lost in the dark. 

The most amazing thing I’ve learnt about myself recently is how resilient I’ve become and how much capacity for joy and happiness I’ve let in, even in between the big life moments that feel a lot. And the best thing is that now I can appreciate how much joy I have, plus how much my capacity for happiness has grown. I can see all my potential lying out in front of me. Past me’s would never have even considered that I was capable. 

If you’re struggling, please don’t feel like you have to go through it alone. Speak to your GP, and you can self-refer through iapt for talking therapy, the NHS has different options available. Plus, you can call the Samaritans free, 24/7, on 116 123. 

I am small, but mighty.

Warning: swears ahead.

Over on Instagram, I have something like 300ish followers right now, and it’s something I’ve felt a lot of shame about in the past.

I grow other people’s accounts for work and I get results, I’ve built up @alongcameloni’s Instagram account to a solid place over the last year or two. I mean, something like 2100 people are signed up to get notified about when I sporadically post here. You know, if we want to get super humble-baggy, I used to have over 10,000 Tumblr followers. Eye-liner and side fringe included.

I know that I can do the thing, but still, I’ve not really done the thing for my own social accounts. Why is that?

I think the shame comes in for me because I do this for work but if you looked at my accounts, I feel like my profile doesn’t ‘prove it’.

And yet, a few weeks ago, I came up with a little content strategy for myself, started to implement it and I’ve seen the metrics go up as a result, so it’s not like the method I apply to client’s social accounts doesn’t work for mine. I have just been historically a bit inconsistent with doing the work ON my business, as well as IN my business.

However, yesterday afternoon I noticed that shame creeping in and I asked myself: does it actually matter that I only have a limited amount of followers when the stuff I do works?

Of course it doesn’t matter. It’s about quality, not quantity.

I get leads and connect with my audience through what I post on social, when I remember to remind people that you can book me for work, I get enquiries. I start conversations, I have IG friends and connections, people tell me that the information I share on here is helpful and useful when they see me irl. Why am I carrying around this shame?

It doesn’t do me any good, if anything it just gets in my head and makes me doubt what I’ll post because no one’s reading anyway. If I had 3000 followers but no one engaging with what I was doing, would that make me feel better about my social media channels? Probably not.

So nah, no more shame poncho for me. I’m throwing that shitty feeling that’s been weighing me down in the bin.

Goodbye heavy, itchy, suffocating shame poncho. If you’ve got some business shame weaving it’s way around your shoulders, creating a little shame poncho to weigh you down, I recommend you throw it away, unwind your shoulders and unclench your jaw – you’ll feel a lot better for it, I promise ✨

inspiration vs. plagiarism – does it even matter?

Ahh the blurry lines of inspiration vs plagiarism… but errr, is it that blurry?

I’m inspired by the incredible people around me all the time. For example, I have business besties that:

✨ inspires me to be the best version of my biz self.
✨ get me thinking on how to be more accessible & inclusive.
✨ inspire me to get off my butt & work on my website. 

Inspiration is lovely. When you’re building on someone else’s work or ideas, credited inspiration is vital.

However, plagiarism and copycatting gives you the shivers like you’ve walked under a ladder or crossed paths with a panther.

When Scott & I first started along came loni, plagiarism was one of our biggest concerns. We were terrified that someone would copy our artwork and designs. And you know, ultimately we were worried they’d sell more of our copied designs than us. We flip flopped for ages about putting anything out there for people to like, and to steal.

In the end, we just had to risk it, because otherwise we were never gonna get started. Three years later, we’re award winning, moving into new products and have just accepted that seeing designs out there that are verrrry close to ours are just part of the thing. It does sting when we walk into Oliver Bonas and see some much bigger brands with cards that look very familiar but it is what it is.

inspiration vs plagiarism in creative work

Did you know my background is in brand marketing? Yeah, developing stand out, solid branding is where I got started over a decade ago.

And the funny thing about branding and an aesthetic that you’ve developed over almost a decade is when you see a version of it staring back at you with someone else’s words, it smacks you in the face. You’ll just be mindlessly scrolling at 10pm on a Bank Holiday when a rip off of your branding just pops up.

Oh, hello plagiarism, have you had a nice long weekend? 

It’s can be so subtle that you might have to sense check, am I being too sensitive? Or is my gut bang on here? 

Other times it’ll be less subtle, it’ll be your work literally lifted. Once, I had a friend use a piece of my poetry for a caption on her photography instagram account. She’d taken a piece of poetry I’d written and used it for her caption, with no credit or acknowledgement. When I saw it, I felt like my heart had been ripped out of my chest.

I very gently messaged her to say that I was pleased that she liked my poetry but could she please credit me or change it to something else, and she replied, oh, I’d just written it down in a notebook when I saw it because the words stood out to me, so I must’ve forgotten I didn’t write them. But anyway, they’re only words, does it matter?

Er yes? Yes it matters.

I replied, if they’re only words, maybe you could write your own? But can you please credit me, or remove the caption.

She removed my words from her caption, and we haven’t spoken since.

Not because she used my poetry without asking or crediting me, but because seeing my work lifted like that felt like a punch to the throat and she never apologised. Not only was she another creative, she was supposed to be my friend. My IRL, survived-the-trenches-of-our-first-workplace-together-friend.

Some people will say there’s no such thing as originality anymore, that every artist, creator, writer, is inspired and takes a bit of everyone that inspires them, and that comes out in their work. And sure, maybe that’s true. 

Does it mean that we just recklessly steal others ideas and work without credit? Does it mean we should? Er no, there’s ways to take inspiration without stealing. We should have more integrity than that. We can be better than that.

what’s it like to work with me?

Warning: this contains some swears.

Recently, I’ve been reflecting on my little biz and the perks of working with me. I’ve come to realise there’s a few, and definitely more than I give myself credit for. 

For the first 12-18 months of running my small business, I really struggled with imposter syndrome, and it was this awful see-saw that I just couldn’t get off. You see, I knew that I was talented at writing, I knew that I had a skill that not everyone had. But I also thought I was absolutely shit and was terrified that at any point, a client would return my work back to me and say something like… you think I’m gonna pay for this? Are you joking? You know, like some kind of New York Mob Boss from a film.

I did a lot of work, and continue to do a lot of work on myself and my small business to overcome that imposter syndrome, but that inner critic, well, she’s a bit of a dick and likes to hang out in my head, especially when I’m really tired and working against a deadline. But regardless of what she says, the truth is, there’s lot of great things about working with me, and I’ve never had anything close to even neutral feedback, on the whole, my clients love my work.

so, what’s so great about working with me?

As a writer and coach-in-training, I’d like to think that I’m a pretty good listener and communicator. I love building long-term relationships, and I only work with brands that I care about to ensure that my heart is all in.

I’m really warm and empathetic, the kind of person that skips over small talk and dives into the deep stuff. Honestly, there’s something about me that encourages people to share deep secrets and rambles about the universe. I’m not sure why, I naturally encourage people to lean in, and I love that people trust me with these pieces of themselves.

Often my clients are surprised to find out that I’m busy or working on things outside of our time together. And this is because I like my clients to feel like they’re my only client. When I’m working with a client, I like them to have all of my attention, creativity and focus during our time together. There’s been occasions when I’ve contacted other service providers, from personal trainers to VAs etc, and I didn’t enjoy feeling like one of many, or just something to tick off in the week. So, I work hard to ensure that my clients never feel that way.

I’m upfront and honest, I don’t shy away from awkward topics like budget, expectations and boundaries. I think it’s important to be clear and transparent, and I expect the same from my clients.

I work a lot on chemistry and gut instinct, I want to get into your business and under its skin to really understand it. I like to hold all the different parts in my hands and inspect them from all angles, and that’s how we get the best results. My briefs dig deep so I can really create the best pieces of work for you. But that’s uncomfortable for some people. And that’s okie, but we probably won’t work well together if you’re only looking for surface level results.

I’ve got two retainer spots opening in May, wanna see if we give and could work together? Drop me a message ✨

Edit Like a Pro: Top Tips for Editing Your Work

Back in 2017, I graduated with my master’s degree in Historical Research, I got a Merit, but it could’ve been a Distinction if I had paid a bit more attention to editing. A lot was going on when I was doing my masters. More than anything, when it came to my final dissertation, I struggled with the cycle of perfectionism/procrastination, so I spent about a fortnight cram-writing 16,000 words. I gave it a cursory proofread, and I made the deadline with about five minutes to spare. 

Honestly, I was SO done with my dissertation that I had reached the ‘I don’t care how this does anymore, a pass will do’ stage. I wronged myself primarily by not being better organised but, the biggest mistake was not leaving myself enough time to edit. In the end, I was two marks off a Distinction in my dissertation. The feedback was that it was an impactful and engaging piece of work, and I knew the topic like the back of my hand, but they couldn’t give me a Distinction when it needed at least another round of editing. 

The moral of the story? Editing is a crucial but also such an easy step to skip over. Even if you’re a high calibre writer, there’s still going to be the odd thing that slips through the net. 

So, hands up, who’s written out a social post or a blog – whether you’ve quickly whipped it out or spent days on it – and you’re so done with looking at your work that you just send it off for approval without giving it much more than a quick skim proofread. Don’t worry, we’re all guilty of it! Or at least, as we know, I am! 

However, editing doesn’t only save you from cringing when your client or boss picks up on an obvious typo (or loses you marks!); it makes your work better. In this blog post, I’ll share some tips for editing your work, showing you how to make the process easier and more efficient.

Proofread your work to find and fix errors in spelling, grammar, and punctuation

This is step one. I write in Microsoft Word or Google Docs, and I tend to fix anything the software flags as we go along. However, once I’ve finished writing, I’ll have a quick proofread. Then I’ll open Grammarly and go through its suggestions; there are a few other alternatives that do a similar job, Grammarly is just what I’ve tried and works for me.

Don’t just apply everything without checking, some of Grammarly’s suggestions can be wild! 

Use the ‘find’ function to search for specific words or phrases 

Next, I go through and double-check myself for: very, really, much. It turns out that I LOVE those little extra words to dial up the feeling, but most of the time, they detract from the message that you’re trying to convey. 

Find a second set of eyes, like another writer or editor, who can provide you with constructive feedback on your work

If you’ve got time, a second set of eyes on your work is unrivalled. Not so much for catching for grammar/punctuation but more for perspective/knowledge gaps. Some things might seem obvious to you (because you know the topic and you’re writing about it), or you’ve just gone word blind, so your brain is just skipping over any mistakes. 

Read through your piece aloud – it will help you catch any mistakes that might have been missed by reading silently 

I know that other writers love the ‘read aloud’ tool for this too, it helps you pick up on anything clunky or any double words that have slipped through the cracks. 

Ask yourself if every word is necessary – remove anything that does not serve a purpose 

Does this add to my writing/overall piece?

Does this deliver additional impact? 

Does this make it better? 

Does this detract from what I’m trying to say? 

Does this make sense? 

^All questions to ask yourself when reading through your work! 

When editing dialogue, make sure all the speech tags are correct (he/she/they said) so readers know who is talking without having to read too far ahead

If you’ve written a piece that includes a lot of dialogue, in your head, it might make sense who’s speaking next, but for readers, it’s easy to lose track or become jarring if it doesn’t flow neatly. Pay attention to your speech marks and tags to ensure all dialogue is clearly identified and flows well. 

Editing and proofing your work sounds straightforward. In theory, it is! But we don’t all have the right eye for detail or attention span for editing, OR we’re just too close to our pieces of work to see the minor errors. 

So, remember once you’ve poured your heart and soul into writing an article, email series or book, it’s time to take care of the final details. Make sure you have enough time to edit – don’t be afraid to use features such as read aloud or tools like Grammarly if they help! 

If you want to make sure that what you’re publishing is perfect, why not get a second opinion? I offer freelance proofreading and editing services for blogs and copy which can save you both time and stress in the long run! Drop me a message today for more information about how I can help with all aspects of writing and editing or book a free 30-minute discovery call here. 

What does it mean to be consistent in your content marketing?

I recently read a quote: If content is king, then consistency is queen.

And it’s so true! Like a little squirrel preparing for winter, going out and collecting seeds and nuts, consistency in your content marketing will set you up for success. 

We hear it all the time, right? The key to success is consistency, and I hate to be like yeah, they’re right. But er yeah, they’re right. Being consistent with your content marketing will help you reap the rewards, just like a little winter-prepared squirrel. I’m not sure how far I can drag out this metaphor, but I’m going to give it a go! 

Why is consistency important for content marketing?

Consistency is vital because it gives your audience a chance to get comfortable with you and who you are. 

If they feel like they know what’s coming when visiting your blog or seeing updates from you on social channels, that will help them develop trust in you and the content you’re providing. After all, if someone is coming to your blog or checking out your social profiles, they’re probably looking for information that relates to the work that you do. 

Therefore, being consistent with sharing content and messaging will help them feel like this isn’t just a fling – it’s something serious! And when someone feels confident in what you provide enough to return regularly, that’s when you know it’s going to stick. 

Having consistency in your content strategy will also help show your audience who you are and what value they can get from their relationship with you and the information that comes from your brand. If someone wants more than just a one-night stand, then don’t be afraid to take your relationship with them to the next level. 

So, knowing all that and why it’s important, what does it even mean to be consistent with your content marketing? Well, whether it’s on social media or blogs, there are three key areas that you need to be consistent in: 

Branding 

Branding is essential, from creating visual hallmarks of your brand with a recognisable font and logo to always writing in the same tone of voice. 

Messaging 

What are you trying to achieve?? Your content strategy isn’t a nice to have; it’s the foundation of everything you’re putting out there. Consistent messaging will help your audience to identify what your brand stands for quickly.

Frequency

Regularly showing up for your audience by sharing content is key to a successful content strategy. When someone visits your blog or your social media channels and likes what they see, they want to know that you’re active and consistently providing valuable or relatable information. 

How much is the perfect amount to show up and share? I hate to provide you with a meh answer, but it depends on your brand, industry, and capacity.

So, I will just say this: the perfect amount to share is whatever is sustainable for you. If you can show up for the ‘gram five times a week and write two blogs a week consistently, then amazing, do it. But if you can only share a blog and post on social twice a week, then that’s great too. If you can consistently manage to maintain that level of regular sharing, that’s perfect. 

What can you do to create a tone of voice that’s consistent?

You can do several things to create your tone of voice, apart from just being yourself! 

One way is ensuring that the copy on all content pieces matches and goes together. Whether it’s always writing in the same tense or using similar language throughout blog posts, consistency with this aspect creates an overall familiarity. 

Another way is by making sure that you maintain a similar style for all images and visuals used throughout whatever platform you’re sharing on. Consistency with this aspect will help tie in the overall feel of your brand’s visual presence, which helps create an identity behind it all. 

And finally, consistency with both aspects is fundamental to creating your recognisable voice online. This is because it helps you build trust and authority as a brand, which means that when people come across anything from you or about you in their newsfeeds, they know what to expect. 

It’s also important to note that if the tone of your messaging changes over time – for example, you’re writing more personal blog posts or sharing a bit lighter on social – that’s fine too. Just don’t do it for the sake of doing it. If your audience is coming to expect one thing, make sure that they continue to get what they want and need from you, even if your tone changes slightly. 

However, just because you may have gotten to know your audience and their needs over time doesn’t mean that you can take them for granted. Consistency is the key! Don’t ever underestimate what they expect from any brand or individual in terms of regularity and reliability. 

When should I share?

If you’re wondering when the best time is to share your content, then wonder no more! There are a few ways that you can go about finding the best time to share your content.  

The first way is by looking at where and how often your target audience visits social media channels or blogs during their day. You can do so using tools like Google Analytics. 

Another way is by looking at when your audience regularly engages with content you’ve shared in the past, whether through comments on social media posts and blog post shares, or even just regular email subscriptions. This will give you a good idea of what to expect from the best time for sharing! 

But I don’t have time to be consistent?!

I recently wrote a blog on how to create and streamline content, even when you’re short on time, you can look at the post here. But one way to keep up with social media, blogging and everything else is by creating a content calendar or schedule. This will help you stay on top of all that you need to do for your content marketing!

Staying organised and focused

Consistency helps you stay organised and focused in several ways:

Firstly, consistency ensures that your audience gets what they’ve come to expect from you. Whether it’s regular blog posts or IG stories shared every day of the week at around this time – if people get used to coming back for more content on a specific day of the week, for example – then that’s what they’ll be expecting from you. 

Secondly, consistency allows you to set goals and targets for yourself in content creation and distribution. This is because it helps you stay focused on your objectives as a brand or individual when it comes to sharing more regularly with people online, which can be a lot more time consuming than you may think. 

Finally, consistency helps with automation and minimising the need for extra labour or work! Choose a social scheduler that will allow you to batch your content so you can share consistently, even when you’re not actively online, therefore saving yourself a lot of time in the long run!

The importance of a routine 

Look, I don’t want to tell you how to live your life, but creating a routine is one of the best ways to ensure that you stay consistent in content marketing. This is especially true if you’re working full time or have other commitments such as studying, tiny humans or any caring responsibilities.

The first thing that I’d recommend is creating a list of blog post ideas for each week so that you always have something to write about. You can do this by looking at your previous blog posts, as well as any current events or news items that are relevant to you and/or your industry. 

If you need some help with generating ideas for content marketing, then take a look at my post about streamlining content! Once you’ve got those ideas, turn them into an editorial calendar so that you have a good idea of what’s coming up in the next few months, and you can schedule these posts accordingly. 

The other thing to consider is creating content that your audience will love reading or watching on social media! Social listening will give you great insights into who it is that makes up your target market so that you’re able to incorporate their interests into every piece of content that you create. 

You can do this by using tools like BuzzSumo to find out the most popular posts on your chosen social media channels, as well as websites in your industry! Or Answer The Public to search for what your potential customers are asking. You could then use these ideas and adapt them for your audience to fit with what you’re trying to achieve.

Consistency comes from having a routine and sticking to it. So, whether you create an editorial calendar or just have a list of your favourite blog post ideas for the week ahead, then consistency will soon become second nature! You’ll have your seeds and nuts squirrelled away for winter in no time!

It seems like a lot of work, and honestly it is to start with. But by creating routines will help you with the prep and you’ll get into a rhythm, allowing you to consistently show up for your audience. Do the work to build routines and you’ll be a happy little squirrel, all ready for winter!

Content marketing is my specialty, from creating content strategy to implementing it through blogs and social content, I know how important it is to show up regularly and consistently. If you would like to have a chat about working together, why not drop me a message or book in a free 30-minute discovery call?

Four reasons your business really should have a blog

An effective marketing strategy is comprised of several components, from paid ads to email marketing. However, one element that shouldn’t be slept on is your blog. I see it all the time, whether it’s down to time, budget or simply the misconception that a blog is a bit 2005 and isn’t worth the effort. 

Whether you’re a big or little brand, B2B or B2C, I’m here to tell you: every business should have a blog. Need more convincing? Take a look at my top four reasons why below!

Turn traffic into leads

Let’s start with the biggie, and probably the most obvious. A blog can draw traffic to your website, which can then turn readers into leads. Most leads come from prospective customers searching for the answer to a question or researching a subject matter rather than looking for a particular product or service. If your brand’s blog is answering that query, plus providing an engaging call-to-action, then you’re turning traffic into potential leads. 

Working closely with SEO and brand experts, content writers research and write about popular subject matter that interests a target audience. Thereby increasing traffic to your site and improving the user experience – which should then lead to more leads.

Prove your experience and expertise 

The main two reasons anyone is checking out your blog are: they’re looking for information or testing your business/knowledge. If you’re struggling to decide whether a blog is worth the effort, consider your blog a test-drive of your offering, where you prove that you know what you’re talking about and your service or product has value. 

From answering common questions, demystifying some of the complex processes within your business or industry, sharing insights into the industry, these are all great ways to establish your business as an authority or thought leader in your specialism. 

My advice to brands without a blog is always to start by offering intelligent insights. You’ll provide immense visitor value and build credibility and trust in your business. 

Improve your SEO

Did you know that there are approximately 3.5 BILLION daily searches on Google? Which, if my maths is correct, is like 25,000 searches A SECOND. It’s wild out there in the SERPs. 

Google’s algorithms change it up often, and they’re pretty secretive about what they like. However, what isn’t going anywhere is that relevance and user experience are a big deal for Google. Relevant to Google means maintaining regular updates with subject matters relevant to the keyword/search query. Therefore, regularly posting blog content is the perfect way to become best friends with Google. 

Obvs, it’s not as simple as posting minimum-effort blogs that are stuffed with keywords. The content must be interesting, relevant and useful. And this is where user experience hangs out; if the user isn’t having a good time on your website because they can’t find what they’re looking for, or the website is clunky etc., they will leave your website – bounce – which will hurt your SEO.

Finally, a sexy piece of blog content that has inspired the reader, answered a query or solved a problem could result in them sharing it with friends and family. Not only does this give your brand a little word of mouth boost (one of the most reliable marketing tactics ever), but it also increases your perceived authority in your industry. This creates traffic to your site, plus any links to your site from third-party sites will create ‘backlinks’ which will increase your domain authority and overall SEO (if the sites aren’t just random rubbish!). 

You own everything! 

The final reason every business should have a blog is that it’s all yours. Social media platforms are excellent, however, if they go down, your profile is removed for any reason, or trends change, and a new platform becomes the flavour of the month, you could lose the traffic stream. However, your blog is 100% your property, and you can grow it to be a steady stream of hits. 

There are so many more great reasons to have a blog; these are just my top four. If you’ve been thinking of starting a blog, my final tip is just to start now. Done is better than perfect, so start today and begin to nurture that little blog.

Do you know that you want a blog for your business, but you just don’t have the time, energy, or motivation to write the posts yourself? Recently described as the blogging queen, I’ve probably written a 1000+ blogs over the last decade! So why not drop me a message and see how we can work together to take your blog from zero to hero?

Who needs a copywriter?

I’ve been a copywriter a while, like twelve-ish years. Over that time, I’ve had many questions about why copywriters are necessary – often to my face! So, I decided it’s time to put that list of fun questions together and answer the ultimate question: who needs a copywriter? 

Listen, I’m just a girl, standing in front of a crowd like Oprah Winfrey shouting: you need a copywriter, you need a copywriter, and you need a copywriter! 

What is a copywriter? 

A copywriter is a professional writer who uses proven sales techniques to create compelling and persuasive pieces of writing to convert readers into customers. Copywriters generate revenue, crafting copy to boost email open rates and skyrocket conversions on a landing page. Not only are they a great ROI, but a great copywriter also intimately understands your ideal audience, grasping their pain points and desires. 

Copywriter vs Content Writer 

What’s the difference? It seems like there’s a lot of overlap, but it generally comes down to the purpose of a piece of writing: 

copy are words that persuade, so writing with an intent to sell and convert. 

whilst content is designed to entertain, engage and educate.

I am a hybrid and write in both spaces. 

What are the benefits of hiring a copywriter? 

In theory, anyone can write, right? So, you might be thinking, I don’t need a copywriter because I can do it myself.  

But nah, probably not. You may have a knack for writing but copywriting is an art form – it takes years of practice. And even then, there’s always room for improvement. When I’m done with your project, it’ll feel sparkly and exciting. 

The benefit of hiring a copywriter is that they will create content to meet your needs, fill in the gaps and make it all work together seamlessly. Whether you don’t have the time or the creativity, but you want results, with the help of a copywriter like me, you’ll get them a lot sooner than you might get there on your own. 

Content is king and a copywriter is what makes your content shine

A good copywriter can be your best friend when communicating what makes your company different from the competition! They’ll help you write content for everything from social media posts to blogs on your website that are engaging, interesting and persuasive.

There are many benefits to hiring a professional writer; not only will they save you time in coming up with new content ideas. But they can also take some of the pressure off by creating blog posts or social content, which leaves you more time to focus on your business. 

Here are some of the reasons why you should consider hiring a copywriter:

  • A good writer creates compelling copy which will help people understand what you do 
  • They’ll also understand the audience you’re targeting and deliver a message that speaks to their pain points or desires – so they’ll be in tune with what resonates best. 
  • Copy can help with branding by establishing your tone and voice – that thing that makes you different from all those other people doing what you’re doing. 
  • It’s more work than just throwing words out there.

So, who needs a copywriter? 

Everyone! Well, anyone who is in the business of marketing their products or services and wants to do it right. Specifically, you need one if your content is not converting readers into customers or it isn’t as compelling and readable as it could be. A good writer will make your content that much better – they understand the audience you’re targeting, so their message speaks to them. They know how to craft compelling copy that persuades and converts, so they’ll be in tune with what resonates best. 

How to find a good copywriter and what to look for 

I think gut feelings will tell you a lot about whether you want to work with a person, but there’s a few other traits and qualities to look out for too: 

  • Some demonstrable experience of ability, whether that’s a portfolio or even just an Instagram that appeals to you. 
  • Personality is important too. You need someone that can build rapport with your target audience and who speaks their language. 
  • You want to find someone you like working with so they are invested in the project and will therefore produce a great result.

Tips on how to work with a copywriter 

  • It might seem like a lot to pay someone to do something (you think) that you can do too, or just as well, but a copywriter will save you time and money in the long run. 
  • If you can’t afford a copywriter to write all your content, pick the most critical pieces that will have maximum impact. For example, your homepage, a sales landing page, or paid ads. 
  • Choose someone that you connect with. Working with someone who has a portfolio of fantastic work but there’s zero rapport won’t produce the level of results that you need. 
  • Remember, a copywriter isn’t just writing for you. They’re also strategic and creative, and they should be able to understand how content impacts conversion rates and what makes people want to read it. 

Words that play nicely with Google

So, you have fantastic messaging, clever words and a great looking site or page. Does any of that matter if it doesn’t play nicely with Google? 

Copywriting and SEO go together like a hand in a glove. Although some copywriters specialise exclusively in SEO, a good copywriter should have at least an understanding of SEO. They will know what makes people want to read something online – like being creative with headlines, using keywords that will rank higher in search engine results, or incorporating visuals that appeal to your target audience.

Are you looking for a copywriter? 

Got an exciting project that needs a copywriter? Drop me a message, and let’s see how we can work together! Take a look at what I offer, or drop me a message here! 

Streamline your processes to consistently create & share content – even when you’re short on time!

We would all love to be one of those magical people who never struggles to find share-worthy content or think of a blog topic, right? They’re consistently sharing content that’s on-trend and interesting. They seem to be on top of everything and never miss a beat or drop the ball. 

But it’s not magic. It’s a streamlined creative process! They’ve created a plan, established a routine and stuck to it consistently. Did you know it takes 66 days on average to build a new habit? So, start streamlining your content process today, and in two months, you could have the process down.

If you’re not sure how to streamline your process, let me break it down for you. Because the more you can quickly and easily create your content, the more likely you’ll be to keep up with sharing content consistently!

Keep a list of topics and ideas handy 

In the notes section of my phone, I have a list of topics of potential blogs and social posts that I’ve jotted down when inspiration strikes me. I use my notes section because it syncs with my phone, laptop and iMac but use any platform that works for you. 

By keeping a list, you’ll quickly have generated a list of random but valuable content ideas all safely stored away for you to access. Note down any ideas that come to mind, even if they seem tenuously linked to your work or insignificant. You can always develop a simple idea later! 

You’ll soon have a bank of topic and content ideas to choose from, which will help you loads when creating a content calendar!

Create a Content Calendar

Every content creator needs a regular, reliable and structured plan to help them create consistent posts. Content isn’t just blogs, it’s blog posts, social media posts, videos, and even podcasts. Here’s where you’ll use your ideas bank. A simple spreadsheet is enough to keep track; I just use excel. 

Create columns for:

  • Topic/Theme
  • When you want to publish
  • What channel it’ll be going on
  • Any notes or reminders 

And then rows with days of the week, or if you don’t want to go into that much detail, and would prefer an overview, then a week commencing date will work here too. 

Start to plot out your ideas against your calendar, deciding what you’ll be posting each week. Whilst I have a content calendar laid out for a year, with top-line info showing, I generally only plot three or so months in advance just because you never know what’s going to happen, and this keeps some flexibility. Plus, if you write a blog on a topic, share that same topic across your socials etc. By repurposing content, you’ll save yourself loads of time and effort! 

Don’t overcomplicate it; if you’re just starting, aim to post one new thing per week before attempting to post 2–3 items each time. After you establish a habit of weekly posting, you can move on to adding additional content. By this time, you’ll have the consistency down. 

If you’re looking to create SEO or optimised content, then I use Google’s Keyword Planner and I love Answer the Public for topics and ideas that speaks directly to the audience’s needs and interests.  

Fight back against blank page syndrome

Do you get blank page syndrome? Where a blank page leaves you shaking and feeling sick? You’re staring at a page, and you just.can’t.write.anything?? Don’t worry, it happens to the best of us. 

It’ll help if you’re creating or crafting content that you’re already familiar with, like if you know a topic well. But when you’re struggling to write, it helps if you have a written outline. 

A written outline is your key to creativity and can be anything from two sentences to a whole essay – just make sure there’s some sort of structure in place! You might find that after going through the steps above, outlining will become second nature. 

If I’m writing an outline, I’ll start by outlining the subheadings or talking points. This gets the creative juices going as you begin to see your work take shape. These headlines are rarely my final ones, but they’ll be a handy guide. 

Talking about getting going, if you find that you spend ages trying to craft the perfect intro, then start somewhere else. Start by writing your first subheading instead, and then work your way down. This takes the pressure off a bit, helps you warm up and get into the topic. Then you can go back to your intro once you’ve got all the inspiration and magic flowing. 

Batch Create Content

Batch creating is when you plan ahead and prep content creation so that it’s available in advance. I particularly like to batch my social media posts, sitting down to write a week or so of captions or prepping the visuals at a time. I find it easier to keep going once I’m in the zone. Plus, it keeps them all in the same tone, and I’m writing about the same topic, it keeps it cohesive. 

If you’re ever short of time, then you’re going to be grateful that you’ve batch created content! Especially since we all have those days where we are too busy or tired to do anything so by pre-creating, we’re making sure that we consistently have content to share. 

It gives the rest of your week a lot more space and breathing room so you can focus on other things like marketing or customer support. Plus, it means when you’re hit by one of those days where everything goes wrong, you’ve still got content to post!

Use Social Schedulers (or any kind of automation really)

Automation is all about making our processes effortless, so similar to scheduling your content to go live or an email to send; social scheduling tools save you lots of time. By scheduling your posts, you’ll be streamlining the process on your own time and ensuring you’re consistently sharing content. If you’re interested, I use Buffer because it’s straightforward and covers all the social channels I use. But there are tons out there! 

Simply fill and set your schedule to launch the content whenever your audience is the most active. Then in your audience’s eyes, it will look like you’re posting consistently and, most importantly, that you’re active! 

Creating content consistently is hard work, but there are ways to streamline the process and stay on top of it. The main things you can do to become a more efficient and creative content creator include keeping track of ideas, creating a calendar with your list of posts for every month or week in advance, batching your content, and using schedulers to help automate when posts go out on social media. 

However, if you really don’t have enough time to create consistent content, why not drop me a message? Whether you’d like a content calendar filled with engaging and exciting ideas for the next quarter or the next year, or write your weekly blog posts, I can help! Take a look at my services here or drop me a message.

Ethical Marketing: how to avoid being gross in the new normal

In the same way that ‘unprecedented times’ became iconic during the pandemic, as we navigate our way out of lockdowns and embrace life post-pandemic, ‘the new normal’ has become just as routinely uttered. 

I’m sure that we’re all guilty of looking forward to saying how ‘we’re looking forward to getting back to normal, whatever normal means.’ In the UK, it’s become almost a small talk topic, along with the weather, any national sports competition and if you’re going to try to go on holiday this year. 

Even before the last lockdown restrictions were lifted back on 19 July (in the UK), getting back to normal has been heavy on our minds. It’s hopeful, optimistic, and full of vulnerability. We don’t want normal as such; we want to go back to a time before a global pandemic turned our worlds upside down. But this push for normalcy is growing, and it’s powerful, mainly because it’s built on hope. 

And here is where we can avoid being gross and icky with our marketing. It’s a tough one to balance because many of us may have been ravaged financially by the pandemic, so the desire to get back to normal and sell will be strong. However, the temptation to jump on the ‘back to normal’ message should be one that brands approach with caution. 

If you’re not careful, you might end up sending incredibly insensitive messages in the spirit of: lockdown is over, buy this new dress so that you don’t look terrible when you go outside again. 

Your customers desperately want to feel good and like themselves again. As marketers, we should be in tune with finding our customers’ pain points and fixing them with our products and services. But let’s not make it a race to the land of gross marketing with a barrage of ‘normal’ messages to fix them. This feels not only gross and sleazy to me, but it’s a rabbit hole to unethical marketing. 

Let’s make ethical the new normal

When we sell something practical, we’re offering a solution to a largely emotionless problem. You know, glue, ladders, a pair of garden shears. They’re all products that fix a practical problem. 

However, when we’re selling something that fixes or touches on an emotional element, that’s when things will start to get interesting. We’ll stick to brands that we know and love because the brand also represents something. Lamborghini, Tiffany, Lego. These brands themselves mean something emotional too.  

I’m all about human, emotional connections. It’s my whole thing as a copywriter. I write empathically to connect with a brand’s audience and speak to them in a relatable and powerful way. 

As marketers, we should all be skilled at creating emotional connections, speaking to the hearts of our audience, as opposed to their minds.

However, your customer’s hearts are probably traumatised right now. They’re vulnerable. They’re hopeful. They’re sensitive. Over the last year and a half, they’ve ridden a wild rollercoaster. 

So, the most ethical thing that brands can do right now is to continue with the compassionate communications they’ve adopted through the pandemic that isn’t powered by sell, sell, sell. Fight against everything that wants to sell your customers x,y,z and get them back out in the world to show it off. A pair of shoes, a watch or a new kitchen isn’t going to fix the cracks in people’s hearts. And for some customers, it’ll be fine; for some, you’ll be preying on their vulnerability. 

So I just can’t sell anything right now? I have a warehouse full of stock and a spreadsheet of worry

Of course, you can, just with some sensitivity and compassion. 

Since the world turned upside down last March, I’m sure you’ve switched to a gentler message. Opting for a share of voice and brand awareness tact over salesy, hard-sell messaging. 

Many of us have changed our tact, instead of asking: what do my customers want? We’ve been looking for ways we can help and asking: what do my customers need?

Even though restrictions are beginning to lift globally, the last year and a half has been A LOT. Not everyone is ready to ‘get back to normal’. Not everyone is prepared to abandon the measures that have made them feel safe; not everyone is ready to go back to the pub or meet up again. After a financial wringing, not everyone can get back to normal. For many people, there’s a long way to go before they’re going to feel normal again. So, a storm of messaging and ads telling customers that you’re the fix they need post-lockdown probably won’t be received particularly well. 

However, customers know that brands must sell their products and services. They recognise that we need to sell to stay afloat and to keep our businesses alive. This isn’t anything to be embarrassed or ashamed of, and we can’t pretend sales aren’t still significant. Selling isn’t gross or icky or sleazy; it’s the way you convey you packaged up your message that matters. 

With everything to navigate, how do we sell compassionately? 

We’re all going through changes 

A crucial part of marketing is knowing your target audience well. You’ve probably got some customer avatars or segments filled with lots of info that you know about your ideal client. This info will typically be split into two pillars: 

Demographics: age, race, religion, gender, family size, income, education etc. This explains who your customer is. 

Psychographics: attitudes, interests, personality, values, opinions, lifestyle etc. This explains why your customer buys things. 

However, after a massive global event like a pandemic, many of these factors in both areas will probably have seen some shifting. Income could’ve been affected by job losses; values may have changed as lots of us re-evaluated what was important to us in a world that felt unsteady. And obviously, our lifestyles have seen a considerable shift – you know, as most of us had to stay at home. 

What happens when these factors shift, but we don’t re-evaluate our data? These changes have potentially become a pain point, and by poking it, we’re crossing a line into unethical marketing and capitalising on vulnerability. 

So, what should you do now? Look at your audience analysis, consider everything that might have changed and how this may have affected your audience’s feelings and behaviour. Once you have a list of changes, the pain points will become visible, and you’ll have a good idea of how your audience might have been affected. 

It’s ok that you need to sell. You can still sell. Just make sure you’re doing it with consideration and compassion. 

Recommendations for selling post-lockdown

I don’t want to call them rules, but recommendations and guidelines feel like a good fit here. 

Don’t celebrate the end of lockdown 

Just, don’t. Any celebration of lockdown restrictions lifting or ending preys on the hopeful optimism that gets crushed when something changes. Remember the crushing weight of the regulations easing being cancelled last Christmas? We don’t know what’s going to happen. Even though it looks like this is it, and the restrictions have continued to ease over the last month, we just don’t know. 

Plus, like I previously mentioned, not everyone feels safe with the loosening of restrictions. Not everyone is ready to go outside or ‘get back to normal’. Many people will have suffered in various ways due to the pandemic, don’t reduce their pain or suffering to a celebration that lockdown is over now. 

What can you do? 

If your product, offering or brand has nothing to do with Covid-19, just don’t mention it or lockdown at all. 

Not only because of the variety of different feelings on lockdown easing but logistically – restrictions are different around the world; if you’re a global brand, then this messaging won’t be consistent. 

Offer value

Hopefully, you’ve been creating and offering value to your customers and audience through this all anyway, this is an excellent place to continue to sit. Most brands don’t belong in the Covid conversation unless you’re an expert or a scientific leader – so just leave that alone. Posting about Covid whilst uninformed just to be included in the conversation is dangerous at best and incredibly negligent and unethical at worst, especially if you have a large following to distribute that lack of information to. 

What can you do? 

Ask yourself, how can I genuinely help right now? What are my brand’s strengths and offerings that can provide help and support here? 

If you’ve been doing that through lockdown, re-visit to ask yourself how your offering may have changed post-lockdown. 

Collaboration over competition 

This is a biggie for me. I believe there’s enough space in the world for us all to co-exist, and I think it’s so much more fulfilling to choose collaboration and community over competition. Maybe if we did a bit more of it, we’d have fewer billionaires hanging out in space whilst their employees were sleeping in their cars… but that’s just me! 

Anyway, brands that come together during this new phase of the pandemic will increase trust with their audiences. Simultaneously, brands who’ve been communicating sensitively during the pandemic will have spent a lot of effort building trust and awareness during this time. 

Now, it’s time for those brands to think about how they can use that brand power and trust to help bring communities back together. 

What can you do? 

Is there a way to collaborate with another brand to help your local community or general humanity? Do you have a skill gap that another company could fix? Do you have a competitor that you could find a way to work with for the greater good? 

At the risk of just writing this in big, bold letters over and over: focus on your customer and their needs and the value you can offer them. 

So, stay away from poking, pressing or otherwise provoking pandemic pain. Unless you’re offering genuine help, don’t even mention it. Just leave it alone.

Let it scab over, let it heal, let it breathe.